"He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says..."
God bless you.
We all need attention; the hearts, minds, wills, and emotions of us all need maintenance, instruction, and affirmation, and that's nothing of which to be ashamed.
However, proper tending and growth of these things are God's alone to nurture. Attention, sought from anyone or anywhere else, makes an idol of those things and makes us idolaters.
Beloved, what do you prize more than God and HIS affection and attention? If your answer is anything other than nothing and no one - ask God to examine your heart.
While we are not to "closet" or shut down our affections or devalue those of others, we must allow Holy Spirit to put "performance" and "man-pleasing" far from us so that Almighty God can have full jurisdiction over our deepest heart.
Who cares what people think, y'all... we're not living for them; they are not our source or our judge. We are not even to be our own judge in the sense of condemnation or justification, because the human heart is flawed. But, as the scriptures say, "if our hearts condemn us, God is greater than our hearts and knows all things." (1 John 3:20) Amen. When our cravings and expectations are focused properly - directed toward God alone - not even our hearts will condemn us because Holy Spirit will confirm that righteousness to our hearts in confidence towards God.
Get in your secret place and pour out your substance to God, beloved. He won't turn you away, and you'll receive all the attention you desire. Only the Lord can meet our true needs, for they are tailored for His care and handling alone. Amen.
God bless you.